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How to Wrap a House and Revenge Wrapping

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 21:06:51 GMT

Mention wrapping a house to a group and you are sure to get different reactions. If you mention it at our house, it is usually followed by a few of our favorite stories.

When I was growing up, slumber parties typically involved wrapping a house. We did it for fun and many times we wrapped a house because someone in our group had a crush on the boy that lived there. As a matter of fact, the highlight of my 13th birthday party was wrapping the house of my “crush”.

Now that I am a parent of a middle school girl, her dad and I are often asked about wrapping a house. Most of the time, one of us can be talked into it.

Of course, that means our house is a target and we get wrapped often.

Most of the time, we catch the kids while they are wrapping our house. If we have a house full of girls, they run out after the boys. Unfortunately, these days, the boys don’t get scared off by the girls anymore. That’s when hubby comes out and gives them a warning before he turns the water hose on them!

Almost every time we have caught a group of boys wrapping our house, we retaliate. We sneak over to there house and do what we call “revenge wrapping”.

The last time our house was wrapped, my son and I saw them as we were about to pull into the driveway. They were almost done, so we drove around to let them finish. A few minutes later, I received a text (from the dad) that said, “gotcha” and included a photo of our wrapped house. Very clever!

My reply, “Best wrapping job we’ve had… better sleep with one eye open!”

As we began plotting our revenge, we decided we had to act soon. We knew they would be on the lookout, so we waited. Another text came in, “if you are coming, do it soon, we are about to go to sleep.” So we waited some more, then headed to the store to buy ALL of their toilet paper. Then hubby and the kids snuck over to their house and did the best revenge wrap.

The next day, they woke up to this…

(I am having trouble with my pictures, if it is not showing up… I am working on it.)

and I woke up to this text…

“You win, that is the best wrapping job… ever!”

I picked up pieces of toilet paper for over a month. Every day, just a little more would fall from the tops of the trees! And about six weeks later, we had a strong wind and I found this…

I must admit, today’s technology added a lot more fun to wrapping a house!

Cammie Moise

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Used To

Used To – Guest Post by Lori Pace

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 18:56:55 GMT

I like to assess my life every once in a while. Do a spring cleaning of a bad habit, a lazy chore, or a self damaging thought process. Things have been tough this year so I am behind on my self improvements.

The other day I was talking to a friend and I found myself saying, “I used to be…” quite often. I used to have time for me. I used to have a clean house. I used to have money. I used to be pretty. And on and on!

I was annoying myself by the end of the conversation so I am sure my friend will need several weeks to recover.

I started thinking… why am I so concerned with what I ‘used to’ do, have, look like, etc.?

Why is longingly comparing to the past OK with me? What could possibly be bad about my life now that makes me want to relish in what I ‘used to’ have?

I am pretty. I know I am pretty. Am I the best looking and self groomed I have ever been in my life? No. But am I still an attractive person with attributes to offer? Like a kind heart, a willing ear, and a ready laugh?

I hope so!

Sure, I ‘use to’ hit the salon once a week. Manicures and pedicures galore. My hair was cut and colored every 6 weeks and you would never see a hair on my upper lip.

But I had nothing else to do! No one else to care for. Nothing else to fill my time. I could afford to be selfish because no one needed me then.

But I had no one to notice.

Now, if I fix my hair and make up, I have four immediate comments on how pretty I am and how wonderful I look.

I would never want to lose that. It means a lot more to me than a weekly grooming session all by myself.

I ‘used to’ have time for myself.

Yes, I did.

A lot of time.

To wonder if I would ever find someone. Dream of possibly having a family one day. And crying because I was so lonely.

I told friends I would never find someone to settle down with. I used to whine and cry and annoy them with my typical, “No one will ever love me!” speech. How they continued to hang out with me sometimes, I don’t know!

Now I have a lot of people who love me and need me and want me all the time. I almost never have time to myself and I almost never go anywhere without one of them with me.

But, despite my complaining and constant wish that I could just get away, I love it. I don’t cry myself to sleep at night because something wonderful happened that day and I had no one to tell. And every day is filled with love and affection… unending most days!

So, I wonder. Why the longing comparisons to the past? If I was so incredibly happy ‘back then’, why did I change it?

If salon visits and first dates and no children was my ultimate joy, why did I so willingly throw it all away?

There must be something pretty amazing here for me to have chosen this path.

Maybe it is time for a mind cleaning. And adjustment in my wordings to more accurately explain the situation.

Instead of I “used to”, how about I “am glad”?

I am glad got to have time to live my life before settling down. I am glad that I got to know what it was like to work for and have a career before I immersed myself in diapers and bottles.

I am glad I had sad and lonely nights so that when things get tough with my husband I can remember that the alternative is not something I want to go back to.

I am glad I do not have more time for myself. Because that means that I am valuable enough to those in my life that I need to be there for them.

And one day, down the road, I will be glad that I had this time to be with them and love them and have them all the time. This time is so short, and I will miss it.

So though I may glorify what used to be, I am glad I am not there anymore. Because where I am now is where I really want to be.

- Lori Pace, A Day In Motherhood

Original Article “Used To”

About Lori

My name is Lori Pace and I am a 38 year old happily married wife and thrilled, but often struggling, mother of three young daughters.

I live in Houston, TX and love that darned Texas heat!

In my previous life, known as before children, I was a stockbroker climbing my way to the middle. I became a married mother at 33 and, in less than 3 years, added two more daughters to my brood.

Now, as a stay at home mom, I feel I needed a place to complain, express frustration, share the joys and laughter of my mothering these children.

Thus was born my blog, A Day in Motherhood.

As a blogger, I fell in love with entering giveaways and reading reviews on blogs before I purchased one. Therefore, I decided to focus part of my blog on doing the same for my readers! I never review, giveaway or promote a product that I myself have not or would not use!

I want to find the best deals and share them with you, tell you about the latest and greatest entertainment information for kids, and write to you often about what it is like to raise these kids!

I am deeply honored that you stopped by to read a post, a review, or enter a giveaway! And thrilled that you have chosen to follow me as I laugh, cry and scream my way through the Mothering of 3 small children!

Cammie Moise

One more reason I love Chevy… I met Lori! She is one of the bloggers working on the #chevygirls social media campaign. I have had so much fun getting to know her. I don’t know how she feels about me, but I love hanging with her. As you can tell by this post, she shares her heart, she is “real” and makes you feel as if you have been friends forever!

I would love for you to stop by her blog - A Day in Motherhood, like her Facebook page and follow her on Twitter - @lomargie.

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Get Your Video Camera, Show Us Your Favorite Chevy, Tell Us Why and You Could Win an iPad2 and $500

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Thu, 26 May 2011 17:04:12 GMT

Chevy Girls on the go, want to let you know…

If you put on a Chevy show, then say why you love it so

You could win $500 in dough..

Plus an iPad2, if we love it when your thru.

Oh, and you live in Texas, too!

Yes, I wrote a cheer… because I am excited about Chevy’s Spring Show & Tell Contest.

Grab your video camera, show us your favorite Chevy and tell everyone why you love it!

Don’t own your favorite Chevy yet? That’s OK, you can always head to the nearest Texas Dealership. Just make sure you bring your video camera and let them know what you’re doing.

If Your Video Is Chosen, you win $500 bucks AND an iPad2!

Want to know my favorite Chevy?

Hard to say, since I have wanted a Suburban for over 10 years! I love a big SUV to cart around my kids, their friends plus sports gear. Plus, all that room for the trips to a family ranch. So peaceful when each child gets their own row.

As a Chevy Mom, I drove the Malibu for a month and found myself quite surprised. I got spoiled with Remote Start, OnStar, Bluetooth calling, great gas mileage, and all those drink holders. I did not want to give it back!

Then came the Volt Unplugged Tour and during the Houston stop, I hosted a block party. Family, friends and neighbors stopped by to test drive the Volt, before it even came out. Very tempting when you consider it’s an electric car.

But lately, I find myself checking out the Traverse and Equinox. Oh, and before I know it, the kids will be grown and I can race around in a small car. Maybe a Chevy Corvette Convertible…

Decisions, decisions! I guess you will have to wait and see.

Prize Details

3g Apple iPad2 and a $500 American Express gift card. Approximate Retail Value (“ARV”): $1200.00. ARV of each prize is as of the date of printing of the Official Rules. Any difference in the stated ARV and the actual value of any prize will not be awarded. No mobile service or wireless service provided on iPad.

Contest Instructions

Upload a 30 second video of you showing off your favorite Chevy! It can be yours, a friend’s, or a brand new one at your local Chevy dealer. Keep it creative, enthusiastic and fun!

Prize Eligibility

Only persons residing in Texas who are at least 18 years of age can enter.

Contest Starts

May 16, 2011 @ 12:00 pm (CDT)

Contest Ends

June 08, 2011 @ 05:00 pm (CDT)

Need more Details?

Read the Official Rules

Head over to Facebook and check out the details on Gotta Love Chevy Houston Fan Page.

About the Company

Just a few local Chevy Dealers who like a good conversation and having fun with friends. Come and see us, we’d love to introduce you to the new Chevy Cruze, Equinox, Traverse or Malibu!

**I am a compensated socialite for Chevy Houston. I promote and share information for Chevy Houston. The contest and its rules must be discussed with Chevy Houston directly. Please read contest rules before entering.**

Cammie Moise

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Questions to Ask the Teacher During Conference Time

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 13:30:00 GMT

Are you looking for a list of questions to ask the teacher during your parenthttp://www.momsmaterial.com/teacher conference? Here is a list of questions I routinely go over with the teachers during conference time. Look over these questions and modify them according to your needs. If you have any additional questions, ideas or stories, please comment below.

How is my child doing in school? In reading? Math? Science? Social Studies?

What subjects are his strongest? Weakest?

How are my child’s work habits? Does hehttp://www.momsmaterial.com/she complete work on time?

Is homework turned in on time?

Does my child need extra help in a particular subject?

What is my child’s ability level? Does hehttp://www.momsmaterial.com/she comfortably work at that level?

Is my student in different classes or groups for different subjects? Which ones? How are the groups determined?

How is my child’s behavior?

Does hehttp://www.momsmaterial.com/she get along well with classmates? Who does my child play with? Is there any child you think might be a good friend for him that he doesn't play with?

Does my child participate in class activities?

Does my child show leadership abilities?

What kinds of tests do you give? What do the tests show about my student's progress? How does my student handle taking tests?

How does my child behave around adults? Is he polite and respectful?

What do you consider my child's best strengths and interests?

How can I help?

If I need to reach you, what is the best way? (E-mail, phone, note.)

During your conference time, if a teacher mentions a behavior or learning issue, listen carefully. Ask questions so you understand if this is a normal behavior or issue that needs a little work or if it is a problem and needs to be watched more closely. If that is the case if any learning disability is a possibility, ask the teacher what the school provides as far as testing. My advice would be not to delay testing in case any issue is present. If the school provides testing, it is better to have that done early rather than late. It will either ease your mind or allow your child the opportunity to learn more and receive help faster.

Please share your input and let us know what questions you ask that would help other parents?

Cammie Moise

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Photo Booth on the Mac Helps You Get Creative and Have Fun With Pictures

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 04:32:41 GMT
A huge Apple fan, finally gets a MacBook!

I have been a fan of Apple for quite some time, but my hubby (IT guy) always seems to put it off. Now that I am thinking about it, I understand his hesitation. If one family member gets a Mac, then the others will soon be asking for one. My daughter has already tried convincing us that she HAS to have one, because that is what they use at school. In addition, she had one assignment that they were unable to sync and it had to be done on a Mac. So, my sweet daughter gave me a choice.

I could get up earlier (she knows I am not a fan of that) and she could use one at the school OR I could just go ahead and buy a MacBook. Based on the beginning of this post, you are probably thinking that sleep was too important and I shelled out the money to get 20 more minutes of sleep. Although I did contemplate the idea of purchasing a MacBook, I choose to take her to school early.

I had been saving up to buy one (MacBook) for myself and passing down my laptop to the kids. In addition, I knew that if I chose to get one at that time, she would always think of it as “her” computer.

The day finally arrived when I headed to my favorite Apple store, and instead of playing on their computers, I actually bought my own.

Now, if I could only wave my magic wand and have everything set up instantly.

I am going through some tutorials and learning how to use some of the new programs. I have to admit, I have enjoyed playing around with Photo Booth, especially when I can say “I’m working.” Really, I am. Not only am I learning different formats for creating content, but I also consider this as research for CyberSafeFamily. Educating families on the risks associated with the internet and digital devices requires that I learn how to use some of the latest technology.

While I was learning how to use Photo Booth, I was reminded of my friend, Jenny at Jenny on the Spot. One thing I love about Jenny is her personality. She is very creative and has a great sense of humor. Her videos seemed to set her apart as her personality was incorporated into her videos. They are funny and entertaining. I often find myself laughing out loud as I watch her videos. She even began sharing her tips on how to have fun with photos and videos. And as you will see in her video, she knows how to have fun!

Check out Jenny on the Spot’s video, “Photo Booth Fun”.

As I was testing out Photo Booth and using the Thermal setting, I remembered Jenny’s video. And although it was funny when she realized the wall was actually “hotter” than she is, it soon became very disturbing.

Because that is when I realized that Jenny is “hotter” than I am...

and the wall is “hotter” than she is. So, where does that leave me?

FYI – If you notice that her video is not quite the same size as mine, it was not on purpose. Remember, I am still learning!

Please stop by Jenny on the Spot where you will find more fun, laughter and some great videos.

Cammie Moise

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Seriously, This is What I Got for Valentine’s Day

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Tue, 15 Feb 2011 09:01:35 GMT

Earlier this week, a package came in addressed to my hubby. He mentioned it contained my Valentine’s Day present. I was impressed since he typically goes out in the afternoon and comes back with a card, flowers and chocolate. Although, I have to admit, on several occasions he has surprised me. One year, he gave me some large hoop diamond earrings that had been on my wish list for over a year. I know that when he orders a gift, it has been thoughtfully considered.

The night before Valentine’s Day, he couldn’t wait to give the kids the presents he picked out for them. My son received an XBox360 related gift and my daughter received some fleece footed heart pajamas. Imagine my surprise when he handed me a box with a matching pair of pj’s… for me! This type of gift, especially for Valentine’s Day was a big surprise. I really did not know what to think. Seriously, look at these…

Not your typical Valentine’s Day gift for your wife. He quickly explained that he thought some matching mother/daughter pj’s would be cute. He knows that I am always freezing in the winter and he thought these would help keep me warm.

Apparently, they don’t make (or didn’t have) petite sizes. Being that I describe myself as “almost 5’ 1”, they were not the least bit flattering. As the night went on, I began to love those pj’s as I thought about the fact he sacrificed his idea for a romantic gift and gave me something he thought would make me happy… and it does.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

Cammie Moise

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What Would You Like MomsMaterial to Address in 2011?

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 19:47:10 GMT

I am looking forward to a new year at MomsMaterial, but I need your help. What information or topics do you find the most useful or entertaining at MomsMaterial?

I have some ideas on the direction I would like MomsMaterial to take, but I need feedback from you. If you are new, please look around and let me know what you like, don’t like and what brought you here.

I originally launched this website to share creative, fun and useful parenting and mom tips. I started off with a broad range of topics and began narrowing them down. I am in the process of deciding what topics stay or what topics MomsMaterial should address regularly.

Please comment below and let me know what you would like to see here.

If you would like to contribute or share a guest post that will benefit the audience, please let me know.

Some of the feedback I have received so far includes:

recommendations on books for kids

recommendations on games and gifts for kids

Digital Parenting tips

technology trends that effect our youth

recommended parenting resources

education and school trends

creative ideas to incorporate fun while learning

fun family ideas and activities

tips to help with organization and time management

Please comment below with your feedback and let me know if you have tips related to these topics and would like to share then with other parents.

Thanks!

Cammie Moise

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Woman Becomes a Victim of Cyberbullying Over Her Choice of Facebook Friends

camm@momsmaterial.com — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 04:19:41 GMT

I don’t know why, but I am still surprised when I find adults behaving as though they are still in high school.

When I read Karen Jones (Jones to the Grindstone) post that addresses adult cyberbullying, I asked her permission to share it with my readers. As an Internet Safety Advocate and mother of two tweens, I hear cyberbullying incidents similar to this on a daily basis. The main difference in this incident is that it involves adults, not teens.

The cyberbullying began when one woman accepted a Facebook Friend request that upset another Facebook Friend. What follows reminds me of typical behavior in a high school. All I can say is, I am thankful I made it through my teens without a permanent digital record of the choices I made back then.

Bully in the Cyber Shop by Karen Jones

Terri West, 41, of West University Place, Texas, checked her email on a summer’s day and opened a Pandora’s Box.

“You are truly a piece of shit … If you ever so much speak my name again, I will use each and every sorted [sic], little thing you have shared with me as well as those you did not against you, “ wrote West’s former friend in the email, “Do I make myself clear?”

It was clear alright — West was the target of a cyber bully.

Websites, like Cyberbullying.org, describe the offense as “spreading malicious rumors through emails, texts, or websites.” Bill Belsey, a cyberbullying expert, says the purpose of these digital attacks is “… to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior … to harm others.” The bullying, with none of it face-to-face, can cause psychological distresses, like depression and anxiety, to grab hold of the victim.

This falling out started because the cyberbully did not approve of West’s selection of Facebook friends. This caused a “defriending” episode that heightened hostilities. When West, a platinum blond, and her prior friend, a raven brunette, were unable to reach a truce, the digital melee began.

Despite the cautionary email, West continued to mention her cyberbully’s name. More clashes ensued.

Then, the cyberbully followed through on her threat. The sour emails sent out to numerous mutual friends stated West’s alleged mental illness, “a sick woman,” and suggested that West is a pathological liar.

Also, the bully posted Facebook status updates that bashed an unnamed person’s credibility and class. Nearly 150 mutual Facebook friends could see these pointed remarks in their status update feeds.

These cyber actions caused West, a Pepperdine University alumna and a clinical director of physical therapy at her place of employment, embarrassment and raw fear: that of losing friends and respect in her community.

As the situation escalated, West began to feel a sense of social isolation. She didn’t know if it was real or imagined. West relayed her feelings using the “five stages of grieving model,” made popular in Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ book, On Death and Dying (1969):

1. Denial. “She wouldn’t ever do this to me. No, I’m untouchable. I’m protected as her friend. She is loyal to me and there’s no way I could disappoint her the way others have. No.”

2. Anger. “Why is she pissed at me and lashing out at me when I am not the root or source of her troubles? How dare her spread lies about me and project her reality on to me. She wants to shame me … She wants me to carry her shame. I can’t believe she is falling for her own lies.”

3. Bargaining. “Okay, I will write a heartfelt email explaining my side of the story, explain things from my perspective. … I can just own my part and make amends for my actions and that will soften her heart and she’ll realize her part as well. Then, we can move on peacefully, like two grown women.”

4. Depression. “Oh well, people are going to believe what they want and it really doesn’t matter at this point … I’m so alone. Everyone is going to believe her and hate me. Am I a bad person? … What is my part? How come I got into this situation? What is it about me that draws this drama?”

5. Acceptance. “I did what I thought was right at the time. I am imperfect and probably could have avoided this situation. … This person is acting out of her own hurt, pain, and anger, a family of junk origin. This too shall pass.”

Chelsea Itson, a confessed cyberbully, wrote the article, “Adult Cyberbullying,” posted on Overcomebullying.org. “Remember that bullies are often lacking something crucial in their lives and they seek pain in others …,” stated Itson.

She advises the victim to not respond to the bullying, but instead document everything and possibly report it to authorities. Currently, cyberbullying is a crime in some states, but not a crime on the federal level.

Cyberbullying.org has a link, “What can be done now?” It offers suggestions on how to handle the cyberbully. At the top of the list is, again, the advice to ignore the bully. The explanation states, “They are trying to mess with your mind and control you, to put fear into you. Don’t give them that pleasure.”

Unlike West, some people cannot work their way through the misery and manage the hassles. There are cases of cyberbullying’s trauma being linked to suicides, like Megan Meier of Missouri and Ryan Halligan of Vermont, both teenagers.

Original post can be found at Karen’s blog, Jones to the Grindstone.

Thank you, Karen for sharing this story.

I was introduced to Karen on Facebook (click on the link and become a Facebook Fan) through some mutual friends. Although we are both from Houston and graduated from the same high school, we did not meet back then. OK, it was due to the age difference, and yes, I am older. Although this post reflects a more serious side, she has a wicked sense of humor.

Jones To The Grindstone's Karen Jones puts into words what others are thinking. She will often add unique photojournalism to hammer the point home. She is currently attending Harvard University as a master's degree candidate in Liberal Arts, Journalism.

About Karen

I am a native of Houston, Texas, where I was raised in the same house and attended Houston ISD schools (Lee High School) until I left in 1988 for Texas A&M University in College Station.

Career-wise, I have mostly just had “jobs”, with no significant career path. By far, my most encompassing employment has been being a wife/military spouse/mom (occurring in that order). Even though none of those have produced a paycheck or any awards of recognition, they are all important and have momentous impact on many. Another “biggie” was taking on the elementary school’s PTA as President. Mock if you will, but that taught me so much about leadership, dealing with people, and the importance of volunteerism in the community. (Although, currently I am in recovery. I ODed on that thankless, beat-up job).

Lucky for me, I have finally found something that I truly enjoy doing: writing, before I turned 40. I grew up in a solidly “scientific” family. Stupidly, it never occurred to me to pursue this avenue of writing because it was not done in my childhood family.

After a fruitful series of events, a writing opportunity fell into my lap. And, well, here I am. Thankfully, I am currently published in an alternative bi-monthly paper, The 11th Hour, in Macon, Georgia. I write a column about my experiences of being a military spouse.

In June 2009 I began a Masters of Liberal Arts in Journalism program at Harvard. I want to improve my writing, learn the tricks of the trade, and quit making rookie mistakes. I have a lot to learn!

Cammie Moise

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Back to School Bullyproofing Tips by The Gracie Brothers

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 18:32:28 GMT

For many children, back to school means back to bullying. We asked Ryron and Rener Gracie, creators of Gracie Bullyproof™– a confidence development program for kids, for some advice on how to help kids stay safe from this pervasive malady.

Bullying is the leading cause of depression and low self-esteem for children. The National Education Association reports 160,000 children miss school every day for fear of bullying. Indeed, every child is a potential target for verbal or physical harassment. What may start as simple name-calling or harmless teasing can snowball into life-altering torment and despair. Unfortunately, we usually don’t hear about bullying until it’s too late – sometimes with shocking consequences like when a school shooting or teen suicide makes national headlines. For weeks after the crisis, bullying will command the attention of parents and educators, and then it slips from public view. The problem remains unsolved despite many positive efforts by local school systems to combat this pervasive social malady. We believe the solution starts at home…where you can train your child to defend themselves against aggressive, mean-spirited children. Here are six steps we encourage all parents to take in order to protect their children from bullies.

1) Start Talking About Bullying. Many children are reluctant to discuss bullying with teachers or parents. They fear the bully’s wrath, and many even believe that they deserve the harassment and humiliation. They hold the emotional pain inside and attempt to hide physical injuries rather than face the problem. Creating and sustaining open communication with your child will enable you to more readily identify the signs of bullying and deal with it if necessary. One of the most effective ways to approach the topic is to make it part of routine conversation at home. Start by asking if your child knows of any bullies at the school, and then ask what the bullies do to other kids. Finally, ask how these bullies treat your child and carefully assess the response. By having regular discussions about bullies and their behaviors, you will demystify the topic and make it easier for your child to both recognize the behavior and tell you about it if it occurs.

2) Watch For Signs of Bullying. Even with the best of relationships between you and your child, simple fear may prevent the child from disclosing a problem with a bully. If you detect depression, weakened appetite, lowered enthusiasm, aggressive attitude, change in sleep patterns, or an unusual drop in their grades, tell your child that you have noticed these uncharacteristic behaviors and that you want to help. The key to success is to communicate a sincere desire to help rather than demanding that they change their behavior.

3) Intervene Immediately When You Learn of Bullying Incidents. If you discover that your child is being bullied, immediately arrange to meet with school administrators and ensure they confront the aggressive child and the child’s parents. Do not downplay the situation by telling them to “blow it off” or “ignore the bully.” Follow up after the initial meeting to ensure that the bullying ceases.

4) Instill Confidence As the First Line of Defense. Confidence is the most effective deterrent to bullying. Build your child’s confidence with praise. Constantly reinforce their fragile sense of self-esteem. Remind them that everyone is unique with differing strengths and weaknesses. Focus on engaging in the activities that you know your child enjoys and excels in. The process of preparing them to face a bully will help develop their confidence. Show your child how to speak assertively, have good poster, and make eye contact. Teach them how to counter verbal attacks with reason and logic by simulating “bullying” situations with your child. Correct carefully and praise lavishly. In no time, your child will have the confidence and the verbal tools to deal with a bully. In the Gracie Bullyproof program, we find that the most confidence inducing activity is to teach the children techniques that will keep them if physically attacked. Once a child no longer fears for their personal safety, they can walk strong, address bullies with confidence and defuse harassment without violence.

5) Teach Your Child Not to Tolerate Bullying of Others. Another great way to increase your child’s preparedness for bullies is to teach them how to recognize bullying of another child. Teach your child what to look for and what to do should they see someone being bullied. Teach them how to intervene and to report bullying incidents to a teacher or school administrator. In addition to honing their ability to deal with a bully, intervening on behalf of others will widen their circle of friends and may reduce the likelihood of being targeted.

6) Teach Compassion For the Bully. A child lacks the maturity to understand that bullies are inherently weak, insecure people who are likely to be the products of bullying by a parent, family member, or another child. Teach your child that bullies are pitiful and deserve their compassion and understanding. This will help to diminish the bully’s stature in your child’s eyes and make it easier to dismiss their attacks.

Every child is exposed to bullying. As a parent it is your responsibility to prepare your youngster to deal with this potentially devastating experience, so you can guarantee they have a happy, prosperous, bully-free childhood.

Ryron and Rener Gracie are third-generation masters of Gracie Jiu-Jitsu and the creators of Gracie Bullyproof, a multimedia confidence and character development program that is taught in hundreds of self-defense academies and public schools worldwide. To learn more about how you can "Bullyproof" your child from home, please visit www.GracieKids.com.

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Rachel Simmons Addresses Back to School and Dealing with Friend Drama During the Be You! The Real Girl Tour

cammie@momsmaterial.com — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:10:53 GMT

School has started and if you have a daughter, chances are, she will have to deal with friend drama. She may be the one creating it, on the receiving end or in the middle of it.

Is your daughter prepared to deal with the drama that comes with friendship? Does she have a plan or strategy that will help her deal with friendship issues? Will she have the confidence to express herself in a healthy way? If not, she will have a difficult time staying out of the drama and maintaining friendships.

Let’s face, most of us need a plan when it comes to communicating effectively. For most of us, it doesn’t come naturally. We had to learn effective communication strategies in order to express our feelings and work out our differences or issues.

Thank goodness, Rachel Simmons comes to the rescue with a fun, interactive workshop that teaches girls powerful strategies on dealing with friendships.

Rachel Simmons is the author of Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, which is the basis for the Odd Girl Out Lifetime Movie, now available on DVD. She has also written Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write About Bullying, Cliques, Popularity and Jealousy and The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence.

The Tour will take place in several cities, check out the Be You! Real Girl Tour link to find the cities that are included.

About the Be You! Real Girl Tour

Adults & girls (8+) are invited to join bestselling author and Girls Leadership Institute co-founder Rachel Simmons for a fun, interactive back-to-school workshop on getting the most out of friendships and staying true to yourself. Rachel will teach girls powerful strategies to express themselves with authenticity and confidence, deal with friend drama effectively, and make healthy decisions in relationships. Adults will learn tools to support girls on the journey. Find out more at rachelsimmons.com.

Be You! Real Girl Tour is coming to Houston on Thursday, September 30th. I highly recommend bringing your daughter (8+) to St. Agnes Academy, the workshop begins at 7:00 p.m. and ends at 8:30 p.m. The cost is $15 and includes one copy of The Curse of the Good Girl. Tickets for the Houston event will be available at Blue Willow Booksellers, call 281-497-8675 to order or to find out more information.



Check out Rachel’s recent interview on The Early Show.

About Rachel Simmons

Rachel Simmons is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, and The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. As an educator and coach, Rachel works internationally to develop strategies to address bullying and empower girls.

The founder of the Girls Leadership Institute, Rachel currently serves as a consultant to schools and organizations around the world.

Rachel was the host of the recent PBS television special, “A Girl’s Life,” and writes an advice blog for girls at TeenVogue.com.

Rachel has appeared on Oprah, is a frequent contributor to the Today Show, and appears regularly in the national media. Odd Girl Out was adapted into a highly acclaimed Lifetime television movie. Rachel lives in western Massachusetts with her West Highland Terrier, Rosie, who is currently taking private workshops with Rachel to learn how to stop bullying other dogs.

MomsMaterial’s tween reporter will be interviewing Rachel Simmons, don’t forget to check it out. We will add the link as soon as it is posted.

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