To begin with, I feel a need to defend why I watch "The Bachelor". My wife likes it and when I do things she likes, life is better around the house. There is an old proverb "When Dad is unhappy, nobody cares. When Mom is unhappy, everybody is unhappy". Watching The Bachelor with her makes everyone a little happier.
Back to Mr. Mesnick. If he could not use the words "follow my heart", "follow my head" or "she is amazing" he would have nothing to say about these girls. I do not write for Hallmark, but I can come up with more than that. You are a big boy, and a sensitive one at that based on how much you cry. Are you not capable of any more description than that? Granted he was so close to pulling out "it's not you, it's me". I was secretly hoping he would go Seinfeld on her and say that. If you are going to dump someone, give them a bit more respect than "follow my heart".
Another point about him, how come no one ever asked why he got divorced? It is valid question. Anyone who splits up a home with a young child better have a good reason. Seeing how this guy operates, I would not be surprised to hear the phrase "follow my heart" as a critical part of the reason.
The Bachelor does not have a good track record for couples staying together. This does not surprise me. In real life I have known people who throughout the entire courting process never really got to know each other. It was all about dinner, going to an event, listening to music, romantic getaways, blah, blah, blah. In marriage it is about credit card balances, paying mortgages, making the time with the kids, cleaning the house, carpool, job pressures, finding time and energy for intimacy and picking up the dry cleaning. This probably does not have the same rating appeal as the New Zealand getaways.
I do not expect the ABC producers to stray from the romantic interlude format, but could they at least attempt to find out some basic things about each other:
How much per year does everyone spend on shoes?
How much per year does everyone spend on golf?
Who works late all the time?
Who has a job that travels 30 weeks a year?
Who is the slob and who is the OCD neat-freak?
Who spends 20 hours in the gym every week?
These are the things that make or break a relationship. Any two attractive people are going to be able to find a connection sailing in Tahiti. Let them have a challenge of feeding a family on $600 bucks a month.
I might have to wait a while for "The Bachelor Real Life".
This has been A Man's Viewpoint from MomsMaterial.
Cammie Moise